Mental health beauty articles

It’s not that you’re always happy, nor that you don’t have negative emotions, but that you can tolerate all your emotional fluctuations and have the ability to pull yourself out of the emotional whirlpool at any time.

Last month, I met a little girl who was an e-commerce operator in 1998 at a psychological service station on the street. Her eyes were swollen like peaches when she came in. She said that she had read too much content about "emotional stability is the top quality of adults" recently. Even my aunt was so upset that she wanted to throw her phone when the express delivery was sold out. She felt that she was "mentally unhealthy and immature". She hid in the toilet for half a month and cried, not daring to tell her colleagues for fear of being called "too pretentious". Don't tell me, we have seen too many examples of this. Many people's misunderstanding about mental health is that they regard "no negative emotions" as a passing mark, which instead forces themselves into a dead end.

Regarding how to deal with emotions, counselors from different schools actually have quite different opinions. Teachers who engage in psychoanalysis will dig into the root cause with you, saying that you exploded when you encountered something trivial this time. It may not be how serious the matter itself is. It may be that when you were a child, you cried in pain when you fell, and your parents said, "Why are you crying about such a trivial matter?" Those emotions that have not been caught have been accumulated until now, and they explode when you poke them. ； Cognitive behavioral counselors are more pragmatic. I won’t talk about things from your childhood. I will give you a small method first. When you are really stuck in emotions, first touch the cold water glass next to you, count the 3 sounds you can hear now, step on the floor 3 times with your feet, and first pull yourself out of the emotional rumination of "thinking about that thing over and over and getting more and more angry". ； There are also teachers who practice existentialism who are more free and easy, saying that pain is the default configuration of life. It doesn’t matter whether you accept it or not. If you allow yourself to be unhappy sometimes, it is a sign of mental health.

It's interesting to say that when I first entered the industry, I was also superstitious about "professional methods". No matter what emotional problems I encountered, I would use scales to measure them and use techniques to dismantle them. Until the year before last, I took on crisis cases for three months in a row. I also suffered from insomnia all night. I tried self-awareness for a week and filled out the form. I kept a mood record sheet for half a month, and finally found that the most effective thing was to take a detour from get off work to buy a 5-yuan marshmallow in front of the elementary school, eat it while standing on the roadside, and then go home. The sweet cold air spread from my mouth to my stomach, and the chest that had been blocked for a day actually opened up. It worked better than any professional technique I could use. You see, there is no one-size-fits-all approach?

Before, a 62-year-old aunt came for a free psychological assessment. The test showed that the anxiety and depression index was half lower than that of many young people in their 20s. When I asked her what kind of maintenance she did, she laughed and said that there was no maintenance at all. She just carried a small one every afternoon. The bag was filled with cat food, and she went to the park to feed stray cats for half an hour. The children at home said she was wasting her time, but she didn't care. After feeding the cats, she stopped by the vegetable market, picked two handfuls of dewy vegetables, and cooked some porridge with pickles in the evening. The days passed slowly. Our colleagues later said privately that this is the top "emotional regulation master". There is no need to know any academic terms. Being comfortable is better than anything else.

In fact, after we have been in this business for a long time, we feel more and more that mental health is never an unattainable "perfect state", and there is no need to force yourself to meet the "10 standards that healthy people must meet" online. If you are happy today, just smile a little more. If you are sad, just close the door and cry for half an hour. If you are bored, just curse in front of an empty room. As long as you don't get stuck in this emotion for a long time and can't get out, and you don't hurt yourself or others, that's good enough. After all, we live this life not to be "emotionally perfect specimens", but to feel the good and the bad, and all the lively fireworks.