What's the reason why men can't wear condoms?

　　“You should take medicine, otherwise ejaculation ? ”“In vitro ejaculation is not safe, so why do you ask me to take pills? Contraception is also a man’s responsibility! ”“It’s not that I don’t want to wear it, but it won’t work if I really wear it. What do you think I should do? ”“You men are so selfish! Who knows whether you are really good or not?”……

　　This kind of "classic" dialogue happens again and again, and I believe many people are familiar with it. It may come from complaints from close friends, or from forum posts, or it may come from your own personal experience.

　　If you don’t wear a condom, you look great, but if you wear it, it really won’t work? Is this a physical problem or a psychological problem? Or is it a dark excuse for men to only care about "pleasure" and not care about "safety"? The reporter interviewed relevant experts to hear their opinions.

　　many young male “"No" is a psychological trick

　　Xiao Chen is 28 years old this year, and he is one of those people who never uses condoms. It's not that the person next to them didn't ask for it, but the young couple discovered that he was in great condition without a condom, but as soon as he put on a condom, he immediately stopped. Why is this?

　　“In fact, many young men themselves have no organic problems, and their sex hormones, blood supply, morning erection and other indicators are all qualified, but they repeatedly emphasize that they cannot wear condoms, and they will not work as soon as they are worn. In such cases, mental and psychological reasons must be considered. ”Relevant experts said that many men's sexual psychology and sexual feelings are unavoidable: "Some men focus too much on the condom after putting it on, and they will feel that their genitals are bound or strangled. They can only relax when they take off the condom." ； There are also some men who express their unwillingness to separate things from their lovers, which would make them mentally unhappy. ”

　　“In fact, these subtle feelings vary from person to person. Many people choose to pay attention to them, while many people choose to ignore them. ”Relevant experts admit that many men do not understand the importance of wearing condoms in disease prevention and contraception, and have not seen flow of people Waiting for the incident to happen, so you can't understand the serious consequences that not wearing a condom may have on your lover, and accordingly you pursue pleasure even more.

　　Expert tip: Complete relaxation can make up for the inadequacy of wearing condoms

　　Experts say that men who feel constrained by wearing condoms can try to use condoms that are thinner and more breathable. At the same time, they should relax completely and learn to enjoy a variety of sexual experiences including emotional communication, physical caress, and exploration of erogenous zones. Don't focus on just one part, and don't always remind yourself that you are "working" by wearing a condom. In addition, the choice of condom size is also critical. Many men feel uncomfortable because they bought the wrong condom model.

　　“There is no absolute technique that can be taught to men to overcome their 'condom phobia', but I would like to use a simple metaphor. People who are truly in love, even if they just interlock their fingers or hug each other gently, will have a sense of happiness and even an electric shock. If you blindly pursue the ultimate feeling during sex, you are putting the cart before the horse: putting physical pleasure above emotional love. ”Relevant experts said that couples who love each other enough can definitely overcome the constraints of layers of traps and achieve "traps in their eyes but no traps in their hearts."