Is it abnormal for a man who doesn’t lie?

　　If a woman doesn't come home all night, a man will call her ten good friends, and all ten of them may say they don't know; if a man doesn't come home all night, and a woman calls his ten good friends, at least four of them will swear that they were together last night, and some of them will even go as far as to say that he was drunk. Women sometimes see it but don't point it out to their faces, just to give men face.

　　From a psychological perspective, men lie to adapt to the needs of society, or it is a survival skill that they have to learn. "The Art of War" and "Thirty-Six Strategies" are all about teaching men how to lie and perform. A man who can't lie will never know how to deal with others skillfully. In the eyes of his boss, colleagues and friends, he is either an idiot or a bookworm.

　　So, why would a man lie to a woman who loves him deeply? Because women's emotional irrationality makes men feel that the risks of honesty are far greater than lying. For example, a man helps his ex-girlfriend out of kindness. No matter how reasonable a woman is, even if she thinks in her heart that a man is doing the right thing, her first instinctive reaction is jealousy, but she does not admit this. Moreover, she usually thinks that a man lies because he has something wrong with him.

　　If a man has no problem with his character, he lies to a woman either because of his pride or because he is covering up. For example, things that are degrading to a man's dignity, such as being cheated, losing his job, having his salary cut, losing money in gambling, and being sexually incompetent, are all things that are degrading to men, and they are too embarrassed to talk about them unless absolutely necessary. If a woman takes the initiative to care and induces with kind words, the man will eventually confess the truth. What really sucks is the cover-up. All matters involving the opposite sex, such as eating, drinking, having fun, business trips, past relationships, business entertainment related to women, acceptance female Gifts from friends, etc., men will subconsciously lie to women in order to avoid trouble. And men will habitually cover up for their friends out of a sense of moral justice and a common fear of "tigresses". However, if you cry "wolf" too much, over time, women will no longer believe it.

　　The reason why a woman cannot tolerate men's lies is not because she does not lie, but because she is worried about love. Women usually lie because of love, and the peak of their lies often occurs during the uncertain period of love. As long as a woman in love doesn't feel she has full control over her man, lies will appear from time to time. She does not mean to deceive him, but she is worried that once she tells the truth, the man will look down on her or even leave her immediately. Therefore, she will subconsciously lead the truth in the direction that she thinks is most conducive to the healthy development of love. Once love is included in the normal course of marriage, a woman who is enriched by happiness and security will greatly reduce the frequency of lying. Men are just the opposite. After marriage, men start to lie more. Why? Because the distance between him and women is unprecedentedly close. In order to coexist peacefully with women, a completely different "alien animal", and to reduce the cost of explanation as much as possible, men began to play tricks.

　　A man who is too honest with women will be looked down upon by his friends. Men love lying. First of all, it is the "macho chauvinism" in their bones that is at work - Chinese traditional culture, especially the "Water Margin complex", has made many men who consider themselves a gangster habitual of disparaging their girlfriends or wives in social situations to avoid the suspicion of "valuing sex over friends" and at the same time showing their authority in the family. A man who loves to lie in front of women usually has a tendency to underestimate the intelligence of the other party, just like a leader often underestimates the intelligence of his subordinates. Sometimes it is as ridiculous as a child making up nonsense in front of his mother.

　　In the early stages of a man's flirtation with a woman outside of marriage, lies are usually a way of protecting his family and himself, which shows that he is just playing along and doesn't want to take it too seriously. If the wife feels something is wrong at this time, it is best to pretend to be stupid and joke around while continuing to observe the development of the situation. Because many facts have proved that exposing lies at this stage often does not help. It will also have the opposite effect of hurting a man's self-esteem and pushing him out. Of course, if you leave a way for a man to escape, and his lies not only do not decrease, but also develop in depth, the problem will really become serious. If the man is still salvageable, or you really don't want to lose this relationship, then you should solve this problem strategically in a way that takes into account the man's self-esteem, especially when "that woman" is related to your husband's future. As a wife, you must make it clear that you are not dealing with the situation but the person. If a man is stubborn and insists on his own way, the first thing a woman can do is to protect herself and her own interests, and the rest will have to be let him go.

　　The essence of lying is to temporarily avoid conflicts. A lie that deceives in the short term may be a good intention in the long term, and the reverse is also true. It is impossible for a person not to lie. He can deceive some people in the long term, and he can deceive everyone in the short term, but he cannot deceive everyone in the long term. Lies have nothing to do with morality. The quality of a lie does not depend on whether it deceives others objectively, but whether it deceives the person involved subjectively. Whether a man is worthy of a woman's love or not, what matters is not how many lies he tells you, but whether he himself is lost in the ocean of human nature.