Insights into five bad mentalities of men in love

　　A is worried about gains and losses

　　Symptoms: Men who worry about gains and losses are a typical complex of contradictions. They may have met their lovers themselves, or they may have been introduced by others. This type of man is often too calm, too composed, and is manifested in being too worried about gains and losses in the relationship with his lover. On the one hand, they have fallen in love with their lover (or they are not sure whether they have fallen in love with the other person at all) and hope to join hands with her and get married together. However, on the other hand, they are reluctant to spend too much time, energy and money on their lover because they are not sure whether they and their lover will succeed in the future, so they do not let the hawk see the rabbit. The reason is that these men are too realistic and relatively lack the passion for love; or they have suffered some emotional setbacks, leading to serious suspicion and fear of being deceived again.

　　B self-righteous type

　　Symptoms: Such men are often talented and handsome, and are at the center of public praise, so they generally feel better about themselves. In love activities, they are mostly in a passive state, but they have a sense of self that dominates everything. It is said that he is in a passive state because the girls around him are not the ones he worked hard to pursue, but they are attracted by the charm of our male protagonist. In this case, no matter how outstanding and rare the girl is, our male protagonist is completely unaware of it. It is he who will develop an inexplicable sense of superiority, and self-righteously believe that as long as he does not dislike the girl around him, the girl around him will always stay by his side. Therefore, throughout the love activities, they always appear in front of their lovers as a giver, and sometimes even have an arrogant attitude.

　　C hasty engagement type

　　Symptoms: Most of these men ignore the importance of love and are indifferent to psychological pleasure. They value skin contact more than emotional communication, and the outcome of marriage more than the process of falling in love. Therefore, they adopt a hasty attitude towards love. As long as they like the girl and the girl is willing to marry them, they may even think it is better to get married immediately. It doesn't matter whether they are in love or not. Therefore, as long as there is a little external catalyst, they immediately ask their lovers to enter the besieged city. When a certain man heard that his work unit was going to divide the house, he went back without hesitation and proposed marriage to his partner, completely ignoring the fact that the two had only known each other for a month or two (note! They were not the kind of lovers who fell in love at first sight, maybe they hadn't really joined hands yet). It can be said that he is a typical man who engages in hasty affairs. What is puzzling is that this kind of people are quite popular in the market. For example, the man mentioned above not only got his wish of getting a house and a wife, but also received praise from relatives and friends, especially his father-in-law and mother-in-law: Well, my son-in-law is very capable, and he was assigned a big deal at such a young age!

　　D does not hesitate to spend money

　　Symptoms: This type of men are usually in a proactive state in love activities. When they meet a girl who is very consistent with their dream person, or when the girl they have been attracted to for a long time gives them a glimmer of hope, their nerve They will be highly aroused, so they will throw themselves into the love movement desperately, launching the fiercest attack on the target regardless of the cost and consequences. Men in love who are in this situation always maintain a highly excited state of mind. In order to gain the favor and affection of their lover, they can say that they will do anything they can.

　　Specifically, when a lover sees a piece of jewelry with a price tag of 8,500 yuan in the mall, she is very attracted to it, but our hero's monthly salary is only 750 yuan, and the current deposit in the bank is only 10,000 yuan. He will still buy this jewelry for his lover without hesitation, even though they have been in a relationship for less than a month, and even though the girl may soon show great interest in another piece of clothing worth thousands of yuan in the store. Our male protagonists can't think about that much. As long as they please their lover, they will do whatever they can to do it.

　　E lack of confidence type

　　Symptoms: Men with insufficient confidence usually meet their lovers through introductions from others. Such men usually do not have very good conditions and lack healthy Cheerful attitude, therefore lack of self-confidence and low self-esteem. They rarely show their strengths in front of the opposite sex, although deep down they long for the care and tenderness of their lovers. Therefore, once someone cares about him and helps him introduce friends, he will be very grateful and cherish this opportunity.

　　But the worst thing is that the stubborn inferiority complex always appears and lingers. When his lover is chatting happily with other men, when his lover temporarily refuses one of his invitations due to physical inconvenience, when his lover gets another opportunity for promotion or salary increase...the demon of inferiority will jump out to cause trouble at any time, and he will pay attention to it. He puts all his efforts on his lover and cares too much about his lover and the opinions and evaluations of himself by the people around him. Over time, he will increasingly ignore his own advantages and charm, causing these advantages and charms that are no longer abundant to continue to disappear.