What to do if you feel bored during sex after marriage

　　Does sex naturally become boring during the growth stage of a marriage? Is it destined to become less and less interesting as time goes by and the same activities are repeated with the same person?
　　
　　One way to answer the above question is to ask, is it less interesting to have dinner and chat with an old friend you've known for 20 years than with a friend you've only known for a year? Obviously it depends on who the friend is and what your relationship was like at the time. But often a person can deepen a conversation more deeply with an old friend than with a new one, although getting to know a new person can be fun and exciting.
　　
　　Part of the reason many men's married sex lives are "doomed to be boring" is that they are often afraid to marry the women they love most and excite them most, because they are the most open and emotionally vulnerable to them.
　　
　　Men tend to base their marriages on realism, hoping that they can control their own rational emotions in life and foresee a stable and predictable future, rather than basing their marriages on the emotion of falling in love at first sight (submitting to the other person's demeanor or thoughts, not just appearance) and being completely conquered by the other person. But in the end such total control becomes boring.
　　
　　In addition, repeated sex with the same person may become boring, which has to do with the repetitive nature of what we define as sex - foreplay, then vaginal penetration, and finally intercourse. male Ending with orgasm in vagina. This point has been discussed in "Heidi's Sexology Report: Women". If people's definition of sex remains the same, perhaps the only way to find interest is to change partners.
　　
　　To some extent, the gradual alienation in the marriage relationship due to the legal inequality between men and women can also lead to feelings of boredom, because boredom often represents anger, indignation or despair that exists but cannot be expressed. Men usually have such anger towards their wives, so marriages are often accompanied by a cold war for more than ten years.
　　
　　Most men respond to this situation by secretly pursuing brief extramarital affairs. But men who seek emotional intimacy and fulfillment through sex—one woman after another, a recurring pattern in married life—are not, in the end, very happy, this survey shows. Better yet, figure out the reason for the "boredom" or lack of intimacy, whether that's pent-up anger or something else. Denying the existence of a problem, describing masculinity as a mechanical impulse, or a deep-seated need for "variety" as if men were inescapably "biologically programmed" to shuttle among flowers and scatter pollen only deepen loneliness and loneliness.