Three psychological manifestations of men facing old lovers

　　Facing an old lover, just a familiar stranger

　　When we met again, she was very strange to me, and all my memories of her stayed in the fragment of yesterday. After we broke up, we started our own families respectively. Although we lived in the same city, we never saw each other again. I met her by chance on the street today. I was heartbroken when she left. But like what Eason Chan sang in "Ten Years": Ten years later, we are friends and can still greet each other, but that tenderness can no longer find a reason to hug. After she and I exchanged greetings, we politely said: “Get in touch again.” As the years passed, she had gained weight. She wore plain clothes and had an unadorned face. I wonder why I was so devoted back then? After walking by, I realized that I didn’t leave any contact information. Maybe this will be the last time we meet, who knows? She is a stranger to me now, so I don’t need to say too much to a stranger.

　　Mentality analysis: this type male We can call it a cooperative type, with an introverted, gentle and emotional personality. Seeing his old flame ripples his calm heart, but he won't express it rashly. The initial breakup was still fresh in his memory, but everything was in the past and he would never look back; a relationship eventually became an eternal memory.

　　I almost cheated on my old lover

　　By chance, she and I met again. When we met again, I felt the unchanging attachment and unforgettable attachment to me in her eyes. We both want to possess each other. Any sensitive topic makes her and me jealous. After her ambiguous expression, I couldn't help but approach her, not out of love, but because of a man's triumphant possession. The marriage of the past few years has brought me relaxation, but it has also given me a sense of fatigue. The "mystery", an important part of the emotional bond, has disappeared... but the phone call from my wife happened to bring me back from crossing the boundary between reason and traditional morality. I almost cheated, and all I could do was escape quickly... I love my wife at home, but I still don't want to hurt the woman I once loved. I know that I still long for a new flaming love, and I don’t want to grow old in this habitual marriage, but I am dependent on my family, and I am conflicted between temptation and morality.……

　　Mentality analysis: A pioneering man dares to do things and dares to love and hate in relationships. The love in the past brought him excitement and pain. Meeting again brought back the passion of love, and he was so impulsive that he almost did something deviant. Fortunately, his wife's phone call woke him up. However, it will be really difficult for him to avoid temptation next time.

　　Facing my old lover, do I want to have her again?

　　Many years ago, I gave up on her for my so-called career and future, but when I had it all, I felt that it was not everything in my life. I became helpless and even more lonely. When I met her again by chance, she was still so kind and charming. Facing the faint smile she cast, I felt so ugly and embarrassed. Back then, for easy material things, I sold my young love and abandoned the woman I loved... Does she still miss me? She can smile at me so easily. It seems that I am no longer in her heart. Faced with her happiness today, I still can't give her selfless blessings. Maybe men are selfish. Now that we both have our own families, can I continue an extramarital affair with her? Men are selfish animals, and I still can't escape those sexual thoughts. I couldn't suppress the desire hidden in my heart and walked towards her……

　　Mentality analysis: Leader-type men are proactive and self-centered, and can easily give up love for the sake of career. But he is not cold-blooded, but he knows that love is not everything. Only bread can keep love eternal. This type of man, once he achieves some success in his career, will often look back to pursue what he gave up to satisfy the emptiness in his soul.